Robert and I will have been married forty years this year (2023). We have four children and five grandchildren. I homeschooled our children, and we now have a successful lawyer and three doctors. If you need help with schooling your children or with helping them to obtain their goals, please book with me as I can offer you advice and support in this area.

Our marriage had always been extremely rocky because of (unknown to me) Robert’s porn addiction. The problems became unbearable, and both Robert and I began our healing journeys through counseling, group meetings, readings, and God. Robert has learned how to become free from sexual addiction and how to treat me with respect and love. I have gone through my own healing journey from Partner Betrayal Trauma.

We have learned from experience how a marriage can go from what seems irreparable to something of beauty and love. We decided to begin counseling others who may have gone through a journey similar to our own. We have seen God at work, not only in our lives, but in the lives of many others. We ask you to not give up on your marriage until you have given us a chance to offer you hope and a future together.

I obtained my Bachelor of Education from the University of Saskatchewan, Bible School through Jerry Savelle Ministries, and my Master’s of Counseling through Briercrest Seminary. I also trained in Partner Betrayal Trauma under Dr. Doug Weiss, president of the American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy (AASAT). I personally know the anger, hurt, devastation, and despair that can be the results of sexual betrayal. A victim of sexual addiction expected his or her spouse to be all in with them in life’s journey together. Discovery of sexual betrayal leaves a marriage in shattered pieces. I have great empathy for betrayed partners, and I understand. I also know the journey that will help guide you into a healthy place again.

My name is Robert M. Frost. I have a science degree in geology and hence worked as a field geologist on the rigs for most of my life. This meant being away from home for prolonged periods of time, which greatly strained my marriage relationship. Then the fact that I had developed and nurtured an addiction to pornography since my teens, continually eroded what fragile strands of relationship we were desperately trying to keep together. Then unbeknownst to me, due to my porn driven selfishness, self- absorption, and self-centredness, I was also personally suffering from Intimacy Anorexia (IA). I had settled into a destructive way of relational behavior and responsiveness. The result was that I was extremely angry, and I was subsequently extremely critical to my wife. Does this sound familiar? 

The porn and Intimacy Anorexia finally led to me having an illicit affair for over a year with someone I connected with on social media. Upon exposure and discovery of my shameful infidelity, through my porn addiction and the personal affair, my wife and I had to make the mutual decision whether to get a divorce or work hard and try to save our marriage. The problem was that we needed a whole new relationship. This takes effort and work and most of all, commitment.

I won’t lie to you; this is hard…very hard. Sometimes, no most times, especially in the beginning, things will feel hopeless and even impossible. That might be where you are right now. There is so much hurt and doubt to wade through. But it is possible! Others like us have done it. You will need to listen to your offended and hurting spouse and weather the storms as they come. You need to find a good counsellor and read suggested books and other resources on how others have made the treacherous journey back to a good and healthy, loving relationship. You will need to change how you see your spouse.

I obtained my Masters of Counseling from Briercrest Seminary, and my objective as a counselor is to help you deal with the pornography addiction in your life and also with the intimacy anorexia you may have unknowingly cultivated along the way. You need to learn to first crawl out of the bondage that this pornography stronghold has established within your being. Together we will bring your secret life and behavior into the light, exposing it for what it is. No longer will you need to keep yourself isolated from your family and friends. Together we will battle and push forward to free you from the shame and guilt of secret sexual sin. You can do it!

I also like to do marriage counselling for men. Another goal of mine is to encourage and uplift each person that reaches out for help and help guide them to becoming a better person. My wife and I both offer individual relationship counselling, and we also offer unique couples-oriented sessions where my wife and I meet with you as a couple. Some of the sessions may be one on one, myself with the husband and my wife with the wife. Then we may have a couple’s session and come together to discuss some of the issues that were raised. It is a great dynamic, and we have seen some impressive results for struggling couples from this method of counselling.

I look forward to hearing from you and hope you will decide to start the journey back to a better relationship today.